tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post581763366561362539..comments2023-07-13T02:48:25.916-07:00Comments on Y Blog w/ the Renaissance Guy: The Lure of the UKUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-85747468670543271332021-04-11T10:36:17.056-07:002021-04-11T10:36:17.056-07:00Hi everyone impacted by Conrad:
I now have over t...Hi everyone impacted by Conrad:<br /><br />I now have over three-and-a-half years sober! I recently met with two detectives from MA when they were out here in CA picking up Conrad from Los Angeles where he has been sitting in jail on charges. They lassoed his ass and dragged his perverted butt back to MA for trial!!!<br /><br />My hope from catching all of these types of predators (e.g., Larry Nassar, Jerry Sandusky, John Geddert, Dr. George Tyndall from USC, etc) is that new laws and regulations with TEETH in them are enacted and effective at mitigating the risk that young athletes, patients, congregants, etc. are sexually abused by men and women who are, by the nature of their jobs, alone with these youths behind closed doors or out of view. The Boy Scouts has a policy called "two deep". It requires two adults to be present when children are around and they STILL have serious problems.<br /><br />This list is UNACCEPTABLE:<br />There are 1,700 priests and other clergy members that the Roman Catholic Church considers credibly accused of child sexual abuse<br /><br />There are about 300 coaches, officials tied to U.S. Olympic groups who have been accused of sexual misconduct since 1982.<br /><br />Also, per the NIH, studies analyzing reports of disciplinary actions for physician sexual misconduct likely underestimate the scope of the problem. For example, a 1996 anonymous random national survey of U.S. physician members of the AMA (response rate = 52%) showed that 3.4% of the respondents reported a history of personal sexual contact (genital–genital, oral–genital, or anal–genital) with one or more patients.<br /><br />A 2017 exploratory analysis of 101 cases of physician sexual abuse of patients found that the primary forms of abuse in these cases were inappropriate touching (33%), sodomy (31%), rape (16%), child molestation (14%), and purportedly consensual sex (7%).<br /><br />There need to be protections NOW!<br /><br />I am a survivor of Conrad's abuse. It has had a terrible and lasting effect on me over the past 35 years. These are SICK, SICK people, such as Harvey Weinstein, and their ability to act on their deviant thoughts needs to be neutralized through regulatory protections.<br /><br />Call me if you need to reach out to someone.<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />David<br />925-482-5312 CellDavid Allinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636640973533336334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-30441583885378017202021-04-11T08:40:07.991-07:002021-04-11T08:40:07.991-07:00Angeloandalec@gmail.comAngeloandalec@gmail.comAngelo Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08806830798462285980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-55249732117759873392021-04-11T08:38:26.820-07:002021-04-11T08:38:26.820-07:00Thanks J.S. I remember how Conrad used to talk ab...Thanks J.S. I remember how Conrad used to talk about his friendship with the queen during the 2 years that he was abusing me various times per week. I too was a star struck adolescent honored to have his attention - a real life coach of an Olympic and world championship gold medalist. If you’d like to connect, email me - I understand what it’s like for Conrad to be coming to mind during a difficult time.Angelo Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08806830798462285980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-37703298861577515562021-03-13T06:39:12.910-08:002021-03-13T06:39:12.910-08:00I'm going through a difficult time right now, ...I'm going through a difficult time right now, and Conrad Mainwaring came to mind. I didn't have the horrible experience many others had with him, but he certainly tried. The last time I looked for him was maybe 2-3 years ago, and I commented on someone's blog post, maybe this one, though I don't see anything that looks like it came from me. Someone reached out to me asking for my involvement, but I didn't feel I could help, wasn't really ready, and then lost track of the email.<br /><br />I ran into Mainwaring while participating in the Empire State Games in Syracuse over summers. Between the first and second summer I knew him, he would write to me. He was an Olympian, dined with the Queen, wrote a book (thesis), and somewhat mentoring, all of which was cool to an aspirational high school student. He was grooming me.<br /><br />Fortunately, when he lured me to his dorm room and things got creepy, I got out and never looked back. But the memory stuck.<br /><br />I see a lot of people have come out against this guy. I don't have much to offer other than moral support and providing ambiguous non-material information, but at least I can add my name to the list so others no the extent of his behavior.<br /><br />J.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03969263573978263781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-6680922471560635662020-08-24T04:25:32.122-07:002020-08-24T04:25:32.122-07:00Email me at rkdrug@gmail.comEmail me at rkdrug@gmail.comSparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13379957094327209359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-18454543657789222402020-08-01T19:02:14.057-07:002020-08-01T19:02:14.057-07:00I was a victim of sexual abuse at 6 years of age. ...I was a victim of sexual abuse at 6 years of age. At 13, I was prey to another, but this one was very closely related. I am not angry, but disappointed, if not disgusted; and assume no responsibility for the appalling acts committed upon me by another. Neither should anyone. In 2001, Conrad Mainwaring sexually assaulted my son. My anger in this regard is hard to contain, but know that there are more of us who would not hurt others. Defy these creatures that crawl from under a rock to prey upon the innocent. Do not let your pain, humiliation, and confusion take hold and define you. Let there be wisdom and faith in the knowing, the teaching, and the caring of the others we embrace without depravity, and strength in our defiance.<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />JCAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551980834200233364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-13811490145913444412020-05-20T22:37:40.184-07:002020-05-20T22:37:40.184-07:00To get your AOL deleted email recovered, you have ...To get your AOL deleted email recovered, you have to open AOL and click on Trash appears in the left panel. Now, choose the email which you want to recover. On the top of the interface, just click on the drop-down option that appears beside “More” and click on “Move to” and then, you can put the recovered email to any place you like.<br /><a href="http://www.email-helpline-number.co.uk/aol-helpline.php" rel="nofollow"><b> AOL Support Number UK</b></a>.<br />Email-Helpline-Number-UKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05145630735152752606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-61208871307088534032019-09-22T14:05:44.952-07:002019-09-22T14:05:44.952-07:00Hi David,
Very well done! I am so pleased for you...Hi David,<br /><br />Very well done! I am so pleased for you and admire your honesty. We can’t blame all our poor decisions in life on Conrad but he has deeply affected all of us and caused so much pain to so many people. Not just his immediate victims but to all those close to us, too.<br /><br />Keep up the good fight.<br /><br />Best Wishes<br /><br />VernonVernon Sharpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258296507352527030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-48813634021973009182019-09-22T13:28:23.879-07:002019-09-22T13:28:23.879-07:00Hi everyone:
On September 26th, I will have two y...Hi everyone:<br /><br />On September 26th, I will have two years of solid sobriety. I have battled many demons over the past 40 years, in part, because of the abuse I suffered at the hands of Conrad for a few years. However, he was not all to blame. There were other factors as well. But, thanks to the incredible guys on this blog as well as those who have had the courage to join the cause, I was able to find help, go through great therapy, tell my story, find a great group of guys in A.A., and have a life. Thank you all so much. I know the fight continues. I know many of you still suffer. I am here if anyone wants to talk. It is as good for me as it is for you. <br /><br />All the best,<br /><br />David<br />925-482-5312<br />David Allinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636640973533336334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-72041196354682207662019-09-05T05:17:14.617-07:002019-09-05T05:17:14.617-07:00I agree but it's not enough. Conrad still work...I agree but it's not enough. Conrad still works on a track in LA despite this! Conrad should face all of the victims that have had to live with his abuse!Sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13379957094327209359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-30646247185464484062019-09-03T10:40:59.911-07:002019-09-03T10:40:59.911-07:00So satisfying to see the world of Conrad Mainwarin...So satisfying to see the world of <a href="http://www.espn.com/espn/feature/story/_/id/27244072/44-years-41-allegations-how-caught-former-olympian" rel="nofollow">Conrad Mainwaring</a> come tumbling down. It's especially satisfying to see his name spread far and wide across the internet. He spent massive effort to remain anonymous, to obfuscate his past and, of course, to lie, all of which he used to groom and manipulate his victims. But now, with his victims empowered, all that effort and his whole life is washed away. When people Google <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=4&v=kXrCQF68r0k" rel="nofollow">Conrad Mainwaring</a> they will learn what he really is, a cowardly, 20th century child molester.Dwaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410041479286293984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-69655192553466157242019-08-19T08:39:03.320-07:002019-08-19T08:39:03.320-07:00Good to see coverage like this happening! I hope &...Good to see coverage like this happening! I hope & pray that many more will feel the confidence to step out and aid in bringing Conrad to justice. I fully understand those who are struggling with how to handle their journey [as I think we all have struggled] and I'm grateful for these guys being able to speak out.Tymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11714767239973825259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-77398221929077556502019-08-19T06:22:02.374-07:002019-08-19T06:22:02.374-07:00Here's another article. Two more men came forw...Here's another article. Two more men came forward.<br /><br />https://www.syracuse.com/orangesports/2019/08/conrad-mainwarings-runners-in-syracuse-recall-a-charming-genius-who-became-a-creep.html?Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11116816039187918086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-54045488473499598472019-08-14T18:20:29.706-07:002019-08-14T18:20:29.706-07:00Nooo. That was a mistake on my inexperienced blog...Nooo. That was a mistake on my inexperienced blogging. The blog and any email groups are reserved for Conrad victims only. I feel it is inappropriate for Mr Shubin to troll for victims on this blog!Sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13379957094327209359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-89283768805639834592019-08-14T12:05:40.751-07:002019-08-14T12:05:40.751-07:00It is critical that you have a safe space to commu...It is critical that you have a safe space to communicate. I will unsubscribe at once. Best wishes! <br /><br /><br />Andrew Shubin<br />Andrew Shubin Attorney at Law, Inc.<br />333 South Allen Street<br />State College, PA 16801<br /> <br />(814) 867 3115<br />Fax: (814) 867-8811<br /> <br />shubin@shubinlaw.com<br />www.shubinlaw.comshubiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10355806481374925286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-20368892523803795302019-08-14T11:29:20.363-07:002019-08-14T11:29:20.363-07:00Edit: NEITHER Shubin, nor any outsider, is welcome...Edit: NEITHER Shubin, nor any outsider, is welcome to the group email.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02347241312746915269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-19674669442203862202019-08-14T11:17:42.549-07:002019-08-14T11:17:42.549-07:00I am a victim from Brewster Dorm and I am a member...I am a victim from Brewster Dorm and I am a member of the private email conversation Sparky suggested a lawyer join. I feel strongly that outsiders (those who do not share the traumatizing experience) should NOT be included in the group email conversation. The group is a victims-only group, something of a support group, and can function as an emotional life-line for some of us. The inclusion of an outsider, -even one who may represent a few of us, would have a significant dampening effect on our communications. <br /><br />Furthermore, and to be explicit, our email group is a private place, a safe place, a singular place. It is a place where a sexual assault victim can openly discuss the events of his trauma, entrusting others similarly traumatized with very personal information. Victims may still struggle with feelings of shame, humiliation, extraordinary grief of loss of years of life opportunity, or other difficult emotions. Victims impart personal information within the group -with an expectancy of privacy. All members of the private email conversation [should!] understand that the decision even to be identified publicly as a Conrad Mainwaring victim is up to each individual victim. Including an outsider would immediately and permanently out victims who may not want to be identified at the time, or ever. <br /><br />Shubin, nor any outsider, is welcome on the email list.<br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02347241312746915269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-71734398961657308812019-08-10T20:42:01.098-07:002019-08-10T20:42:01.098-07:00I also want to encourage anyone who's been a v...I also want to encourage anyone who's been a victim of Conrad Mainwaring to communicate with others who are dealing with the same emotions and challenges. I've been so grateful to hear other's stories and have a platform to share my own story. It took a long time for many of us to come to terms with what transpired and now I want to be a help to others in the same situation. If anyone wants to reach me they can email at ymodrecords@gmail.com. Thanks for being here people! TymTymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11714767239973825259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-60795156308748990022019-08-10T18:52:17.081-07:002019-08-10T18:52:17.081-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13379957094327209359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-77774080538490679772019-08-10T18:50:32.049-07:002019-08-10T18:50:32.049-07:00You should really join our email chain of victims....You should really join our email chain of victims. It has helped us all to join forces and cope with all of this. You can contact Mike Kessler and he will give you contact info.Sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13379957094327209359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-49102349698562378442019-08-07T13:15:58.151-07:002019-08-07T13:15:58.151-07:00Friends
I am an attorney who has represented chi...Friends <br /><br />I am an attorney who has represented child sexual abuse victims and I'm working with CAM victims as well. I wanted to pass along important civil Statute of Limitation reform information to those CAM survivors who were abused in New York State prior to their 18th birthday. <br /><br />For children abused in New York prior to their 18th birthday, New York's newly enacted Child Victims Act extends the statute of limitations through the survivor's 55th birthday. Abuse victims under the age of 55 have until their 55th birthday to file. <br /><br />OF CRITICAL IMPORTANCE IN CAM CASES <br /><br />With respect to New York victims -- many of whom are older than 55, the new law provides a one-time, one-year window for any child sex abuse victim to bring suit. Therefore even if you are older than 55, you are still eligible to file a civil claim for a period of one-year beginning on August 14, 2019.<br /><br />The new law applies to claims not only against the perp - but also to potential claims against the institutions that enabled him -- this could mean the Universities -- or others -- who employed the perp. <br /><br />Andrew Shubin<br />Shubin Law <br />333 South Allen Street<br />State College, PA 16801<br /><br />(814) 867 3115<br /><br />shubin@shubinlaw.com<br />www.shubinlaw.com<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />shubiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10355806481374925286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-87505355772768831992019-08-07T12:32:17.682-07:002019-08-07T12:32:17.682-07:00Hi
I just wanted to say that I think anyone of us...Hi<br /><br />I just wanted to say that I think anyone of us could have written what you just have. I’m sure we’ve all struggled at some time with feelings of worthlessness, that there must be something wrong with me, that I’m an awful person and who could possibly love me? Above all, I really struggled to trust anyone. These are still some of my default thoughts at times of stress when the self doubt creeps in but I have learnt to recognise these automatic negative thoughts over the years and successfully challenge them before acting on the them. I have got myself into a lot of trouble over the years when I wasn’t able to recognise these thoughts for what they were. It’s still not easy and I still struggle from time to time but I guess everyone struggles with something.<br /><br />I had many of these feelings too before I met CM. I was also sexually abused by a family friend when I was 4 or 5 years old. My parents weren’t bad people but they were quite self-absorbed and I was farmed out to our housekeeper much of the time, who took care of me when I was very young. This is how I grew up to be a vulnerable teenager and that’s exactly what CM saw when he came into the sporting goods store, where I was working in Leicester as a Saturday shop assistant. He prayed on the vulnerable and he was a master, par excellence, at spotting our vulnerabilities.<br /><br />Good people do bad things sometimes and bad people can do good things too. However, CM would not have chosen a bad person to manipulate and abuse. That wasn’t his style. He chose good people because bad people cannot believe in others and he needed us to believe in him. We now need to believe in ourselves and in each other. We must not allow CM to take that away from us. His power is all but gone and we are the ones getting stronger.<br /> <br />The truth is that it is CM who is bad, through and through. He is the one who is unlovable and unable to love and he is one worthless piece of shit!!!<br /><br />We are good people and that is why there is hope for us all but there is no hope for CM.<br /><br />Anyone is free to email me at vernonsharples@gmail.com. I would not criticise anyone for wishing to remain anonymous but I am not hiding anymore and there is a great sense of liberation and freedom in being me and telling the truth.Vernon Sharpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258296507352527030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-85880451472591749472019-08-06T12:32:10.053-07:002019-08-06T12:32:10.053-07:00Hello -
I spoke with the authors of the ESPN art...Hello - <br /><br />I spoke with the authors of the ESPN article a lot and contributed everything I could about CAM, but I chose to remain anonymous, and I appreciate so much everyone who was willing to use their names and share their stories. I cannot help but want to express what I have been feeling since the publication of the article, as now, my memory of the 2 years I spent training with CAM is directly in the forefront of my mind. On the one hand, reading all your stories made it clear to the rational side of my mind that what happened to me was the result of someones manipulation - and it made me more able to wrap my head around accepting it as something that happened to me, not something to be ashamed of.<br /><br />However, I feel more than ever that I am not worth anything, close relationships are not trustworthy, especially romantic partners, no one will ever like me, nor should they, I am a bad person, there is something wrong with me, and that there must be something wrong with anyone who likes me or loves me. I have always felt these things, before CAM, and even more so after him - and I know that these things drew me to CAM. I am working through how these attitudes came to be in my head and how to co-exist with them and rise above their power over my day-to-day thought - through journaling, talking with others (very few), talking to my therapist, and meditating.<br /><br />I am writing here to put my feelings and thoughts out there, because I am for some reason pulled to do that. It is different from the rational side for me, because I know, objectively, that what happened is not shameful and that it was the result of manipulation. But the feeling runs deep and seems to be a part of me, guiding my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and ultimately limiting the path of my life, if I continue to let it.<br /><br />Thank you all so much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08998349908365207478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-15933329066509978052019-08-03T19:24:28.600-07:002019-08-03T19:24:28.600-07:00ESPN released this story on Mainwaring 2 days ago:...ESPN released this story on Mainwaring 2 days ago:<br /><br />http://www.espn.com/espn/feature/story/_/id/27244072/44-years-41-allegations-how-caught-former-olympian<br /><br />The release says the corresponding TV spot (E-60) is currently scheduled for tomorrow, August 4th at 9AM eastern time on ESPN.David Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15799422548914884841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-746628875865028860.post-9114169082985401712019-06-26T05:11:55.057-07:002019-06-26T05:11:55.057-07:00Hi KDR
Are you still in Leicester or the U.K.?
I...Hi KDR<br /><br />Are you still in Leicester or the U.K.?<br /><br />It would be really helpful if you could get in touch with me. You can contact me at vernonsharples@gmail.com.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10393665163817255387noreply@blogger.com